the pleasure principle
How To Quit Exhausting Sex, And Pleasure Yourself Instead, Explained
If you're feeling like an actor during sex, don't worry friend, you are not alone. Writer Jenny Singer breaks down how you might already have all the tools you need to fix this.
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Self-pleasure and masturbation are often remedies given out to resolve a dry sex life. But rather than romanticizing the practice, Jenny Singer says it's better to view it as a much needed weekly chore. By taking the time to understand our bodies better, Singer says we can also learn how to communicate our desires more effectively to our partner.
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- Self-pleasure can actually be a source of empowerment for people, allowing them to build sexual self-knowledge and communicate more clearly with their partners without fearing shame.
- Individuals should invest considerable time into understanding what feels good for them — both during self-pleasure and partnered sex.
- To foster more open sexual communication, it's essential to move beyond societal stigmas and encourage the consensual use of less conventional arousal techniques uncovered during masturbation.